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Day Number 8!!!! we pluggin fwd!!!! just told my rosh yeshiva i need a new first seder chavrusa cuz thats what is important in life!!!! 
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 
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Re: Hayom Yom 25 Jan 2022 06:32 #376435

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Sapy wrote on 23 Jan 2022 19:35:
Mazel tov dear brother!! It touched my heart reading this great news... (sundays were usually the posts about the struggle with the boring course....) I'm so so happy for you! May you be able to grow and thrive! 

P.s. I'm lucky to share my 90 days achievement day with you, also for the first time... 

Mazel Tov Sapy!
I'm so happy to see you reach 90!
In your honor I will be making a lechaim! 
( after all, I learned from the best )

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Hayom Yom 25 Jan 2022 06:23 #376434

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Mazel Tov BHHYY! 
Such great news!
Keep rocking!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

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MAZEL TOV!!!
@BHYY

for reaching 90 days!!
iyh by all of us of simches!

L'CHAIM!
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
העבר עיני מראות שוא, בדרכך חינו (תהלים קיט, לז)
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MAZEL TOV!!!
@Sapy

for reaching 90 days!!
iyh by all of us of simches!

L'CHAIM!
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
העבר עיני מראות שוא, בדרכך חינו (תהלים קיט, לז)
PM me for my phone number
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Re: Day 1/90 25 Jan 2022 05:19 #376431

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Day 2/90 ✅
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Re: 90 day log! 25 Jan 2022 05:11 #376430

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been busy, i almost forgot to post today!

Thank G-d, I am 7 weeks clean. 

looking back at where i was a year ago, struggling, falling, trying, giving up, trying again; i am amazed. 
it all pays off in the end. all the failed attempts eventually led to (just over) 7 weeks ago, when i started this thread. 

i dont know what challenges i may (will) face in the future, but right now i’m just focusing on the fact that i am 7 weeks clean. 

it feels good.
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Re: Hayom Yom 25 Jan 2022 03:56 #376429

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Mazel tov! Amazing!

Was there something you think that specifically helped you get over the top?
אין הדבר תלוי אלא בי
אלמלא הקב"ה עוזרו לא יכול לו
זרע אברהם אוהבי
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joetyh wrote on 24 Jan 2022 22:16:
I don't know why I decided to do this, or what gave me the strength, but last night I sent my father the following text....  

"You don't even know how much I appreciate having understanding parents... I don't know why I feel like sending this text but I decided I will.For the past couple of years I've struggled really hard with shmiras einayim and shmiras habris... I've developed terrible habits and I was feeling so guilty and alone. Even when I originally found GuardYourEyes  I wasn't ready and it was not working. BH this year I have reached a point where I was able to confront myself and realize I've got an issue... I got really involved with GYE. I spoke to my Rosh Yeshiva a lot I spoke to my Mashgiach and I came to the conclusion that I'm normal... And I can beat this. I got this amazing mentor from GYE who has explained to me what the proper outlook on sex and intimacy is and how what I have been doing is so detrimental for the beautiful marriage I hope to have BezH at the right time... BezH when I wake up tomorrow morning it will be my first week clean in I don't know how long and it's the first time I believe I can beat this no matter how hard it will be...."

I'm still not sure why I decided to but it felt so good to share it and get so so much support from my loving father. After this I was just sitting in bed crying and crying (for the second time yesterday, good thing my roommate didn't walk in again) I have been waiting and davening for these tears for years!!!!!!!!!

To quote my mentor, HHM: HERO!!!!!!!!!!!!
Appreciate every day your understanding and supporting parents. You’ll get through this!
נאָך אַ שריפה ווערט מען רייַך - After a fire one becomes wealthy.

My email: bhyy@protonmail.com

My thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/349632-Hayom-Yom
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I don't know why I decided to do this, or what gave me the strength, but last night I sent my father the following text....  

"You don't even know how much I appreciate having understanding parents... I don't know why I feel like sending this text but I decided I will.For the past couple of years I've struggled really hard with shmiras einayim and shmiras habris... I've developed terrible habits and I was feeling so guilty and alone. Even when I originally found GuardYourEyes  I wasn't ready and it was not working. BH this year I have reached a point where I was able to confront myself and realize I've got an issue... I got really involved with GYE. I spoke to my Rosh Yeshiva a lot I spoke to my Mashgiach and I came to the conclusion that I'm normal... And I can beat this. I got this amazing mentor from GYE who has explained to me what the proper outlook on sex and intimacy is and how what I have been doing is so detrimental for the beautiful marriage I hope to have BezH at the right time... BezH when I wake up tomorrow morning it will be my first week clean in I don't know how long and it's the first time I believe I can beat this no matter how hard it will be...."

I'm still not sure why I decided to but it felt so good to share it and get so so much support from my loving father. After this I was just sitting in bed crying and crying (for the second time yesterday, good thing my roommate didn't walk in again) I have been waiting and davening for these tears for years!!!!!!!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 
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Re: Want to be BT again 24 Jan 2022 20:30 #376422

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BT Again wrote on 24 Jan 2022 19:43:
38 days, pushing through it. I haven't updated the chevra on my davening situation in a bit, but I am now BH davening shacharis and mincha every day with little difficulty. I think I'm ready to incorporate maariv, honestly I have no reason not to at this point. So my goal from here on out is to daven every service! I have never been able to keep this up for more than a week, but I think I'm actually in a place where I can take it on successfully, G-d willing.

You're amazing! Keep it up...
As a side note, davening Maariv when it is dark outside is symbolic of praising G-d even when things are dark and bleak. 
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @  ahavayirah@gmail.com
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Re: Want to be BT again 24 Jan 2022 19:43 #376421

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38 days, pushing through it. I haven't updated the chevra on my davening situation in a bit, but I am now BH davening shacharis and mincha every day with little difficulty. I think I'm ready to incorporate maariv, honestly I have no reason not to at this point. So my goal from here on out is to daven every service! I have never been able to keep this up for more than a week, but I think I'm actually in a place where I can take it on successfully, G-d willing.
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OivedElokim wrote on 24 Jan 2022 19:16:

omekhadavar wrote on 24 Jan 2022 13:58:
Try Lesson 1 on the Flight for Freedom program.

How do I access that?

f2f.guardyoureyes.org/
It doesn't work on netfree filtered computers
Feel free to reach out! jackthejewgye@gmail.com I'll do my best to try and listen! 
Hashem is always with you!
Life. Learning. Liberty from the Past
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omekhadavar wrote on 24 Jan 2022 13:58:
Try Lesson 1 on the Flight for Freedom program.

How do I access that?
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

My old thread

My current thread 

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jackthejew wrote on 24 Jan 2022 09:12:

OivedElokim wrote on 24 Jan 2022 07:41:
I’ve come to the realization that I need to change my game plan. It’s not enough for me to have filters and a knas system for falling. Filters don’t help for other peoples unfiltered devices , and a knas doesn’t always serve as enough of a deterrent. That doesn’t deal with the underlying issue. I still have a strong desire and “need” to act out. I still believe on some level that porn is good for me. I need to change that. Maybe I need to make a pro/con list. Did that awhile back and it seemed to help for a period. Any comments or suggestions are welcome and appreciated.

Maybe get a partner? guardyoureyes.com/tools/partner-program

I’m in frequent contact with several friends from GYE
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

My old thread

My current thread 

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