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Re: Starting 90 days let’s go! 01 Apr 2022 19:22 #379478

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Re: Starting 90 days let’s go! 03 Apr 2022 17:38 #379505

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After 10 days off of p & m, I find myself getting overly confident in my abilities. I’m thinking things like, I can look at that or listen to that, and still be able to stay strong. Just now, I was searching for a song to listen to. I was thinking to listen to something I used to enjoy years back, that has women singing in it. I figured I’ll write here about my challenge first and see if I’m still interested after. I can’t get complacent. Always have to be proactive. Thank you for listening. Hatzlacha to all! Please give feedback. Much appreciated!

Re: Starting 90 days let’s go! 03 Apr 2022 17:47 #379506

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It's good that you realize the emotional feelings of complacency and realized that it's dangerous. It's good you got to this point. Now it's time to add extra strength so you don't become complacent. Perhaps something motivational or extra would be good.
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation 
https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: 
https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Re: Starting 90 days let’s go! 03 Apr 2022 17:49 #379507

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There are many great tactics from managing urges, but they will only be effective if our goal is to stop completely over time, by progressively cutting down more and more. But if we allow ourselves to become complacent by simply keeping our addiction "under control", we will remain addicted to these behaviors. And as we often end up learning later the hard way, this struggle is progressive. It doesn’t get better on it's own, only worse.



Our sages have said: "There is a small organ in a man, if one feeds it - it is hungry, if one starves it - it is satiated". This is a very important Yesod to keep in mind, and it shows how much our Sages understood the nature of this struggle. The more we cut down, and the more distance we put between ourselves and the struggle, the easier it gets.
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
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Re: Starting 90 days let’s go! 13 Jun 2022 18:46 #381906

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This morning I fell. Not to full on porn Bh because my phone is blocked, aside from GYE and work email. But I have google maps, and the yetzer hara is very creative, i was just searching up different places, and from there it one glimpse of something that just leads me down the rabbit hole. I had a fall. 

I've put it behind me already. Actually I haven’t. I feel it in my subconscious. My motivation has been down today. 

Thank you for listening chaveirim.

I feel very alone. 

Re: Starting 90 days let’s go! 13 Jun 2022 19:41 #381911

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Larry Bird wrote on 13 Jun 2022 18:46:
This morning I fell. Not to full on porn Bh because my phone is blocked, aside from GYE and work email. But I have google maps, and the yetzer hara is very creative, i was just searching up different places, and from there it one glimpse of something that just leads me down the rabbit hole. I had a fall. 

I've put it behind me already. Actually I haven’t. I feel it in my subconscious. My motivation has been down today. 

Thank you for listening chaveirim.

I feel very alone. 

I can relate to this.
what has worked for me is remembering this after-the-fact feeling, so that when faced with a similar situation again, I can tell myself I don't want to go this route.

Re: Starting 90 days let’s go! 13 Jun 2022 22:59 #381919

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Larry Bird wrote on 13 Jun 2022 18:46:
This morning I fell. Not to full on porn Bh because my phone is blocked, aside from GYE and work email. But I have google maps, and the yetzer hara is very creative, i was just searching up different places, and from there it one glimpse of something that just leads me down the rabbit hole. I had a fall. 

I've put it behind me already. Actually I haven’t. I feel it in my subconscious. My motivation has been down today. 

Thank you for listening chaveirim.

I feel very alone. 

So what’s the big deal. 
Delete the Maps App, and if you need more help with it go to your local tag play station.
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