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Re: looking for chizuk 02 Jan 2022 17:41 #375449

Hashem Help Me wrote on 02 Jan 2022 12:18:

613guard wrote on 02 Jan 2022 00:12:
Fell on Fri
no p--- bh
but still a fall
gonna havta try harder

Celebrate the fact that your eyes stayed clean. That goal should remain shtark, even if you are finding masturbation to still be tough. Iyh you will graduate both, but do not throw in the towel on pornography if you stumble with masturbation - that is what the yetzer hara would like to see...

Golden post! This can’t be any closer to the truth! It’s pure emes! Often, people are struggling and they connect porn with masturbation! Meanwhile they’re two totally different battles! And if you fall with masturbation! Stay strong with porn! It’s a whole sugya in its own! And if you can accomplish that by means of motivation! And understanding your done with porn! Even if you fall then with masturbation sometimes for a relief or whatever it might be. You’ve still come 80% maybe more of the way!! Porn destroys you! And makes you need to masturbate much more now! And in the long run! Cuz it creates this need for sexual excitement! This corrupt mindset that sex Is so exciting! And in the long run you’ll have masturbated 1000s of times more! Stay strong with porn! Even if you fail masturbation! And eventually you can focus on masturbation when you have porn under your sleeve! And it’ll be much easier to fight masturbation then cause often masturbation comes from a mindset of thinking and fantasies so you need some sexual outlet so we masturbate! But if you end that slowly they’ll be less fantasies with the correct motivation and mindset! Good luck! You got this! 
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Re: looking for chizuk 05 Jan 2022 06:03 #375537

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so true  awesome post hashemhelpme
yetzer tries to get you everywhere
we gotta take our wins where we can get them 
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

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Re: looking for chizuk 07 Jan 2022 08:25 #375670

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Fell after being so good
I need to try reading easypeasymethod again it sincerely helped
until one peek
gotta prevent that one peek next time
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

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Last Edit: 07 Jan 2022 08:26 by 613guard. Reason: Grammar

Re: looking for chizuk 09 Jan 2022 08:02 #375704

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Stressful last week but stayed clean over the weekend bh

Shoutout to zedj for the chizuk congrats on hitting 100 days hope to get there myself
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

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Re: looking for chizuk 16 Jan 2022 01:00 #375941

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Just fell after 9 days clean was mz"l
no porn bh
but its so hard to stop everything at once any advice?
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

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Re: looking for chizuk 16 Jan 2022 12:08 #375958

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First of all celebrate the fact that you have kept away from watching. that is an incredible accomplishment and you should feel good about yourself. secondly, when is the last time you accomplished 9 days? If it has been a long time, go buy yourself a treat and celebrate with a nice bracha when you enjoy it. Look at it as a siyum and celebrate with Hashem. then just move on! It usually helps to have an accountability partner...
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Re: looking for chizuk 21 Jan 2022 21:21 #376304

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Just watched for the first time in a month 
It just happened so quickly
I really need a partner to tell every time I go on the internet
Maybe I'll just start posting on my thread every time before and after
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

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Re: looking for chizuk 23 Jan 2022 00:33 #376319

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Going online
signing in
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

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Re: looking for chizuk 23 Jan 2022 07:15 #376337

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Signing out 
still clean bh
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

Check out easypeasymethod.org

My thread
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Re: looking for chizuk 30 Jan 2022 07:00 #376628

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Just had a small fall
Will restart the count after two 9 day streaks in a row
Hoping to hit 18 straight this time 
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

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Re: looking for chizuk 30 Jan 2022 07:08 #376630

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Don't forget to celebrate 9 clean days. It's an accomplishment in of itself!

Perhaps what you think is a fall can be categorized as a slip?
Do you have a mentor or close friend/rebbe you can share your ups and downs?
mmaybe getting a fellow gye member as a partner?

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Last Edit: 30 Jan 2022 07:10 by Zedj.

Re: looking for chizuk 30 Jan 2022 15:18 #376645

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613guard wrote on 30 Jan 2022 07:00:
Just had a small fall
Will restart the count after two 9 day streaks in a row
Hoping to hit 18 straight this time 

There is a major difference between having one slip and having a relapse. A lapse represents a temporary slip or return to a previous behavior that one is trying to control or quit (usually a onetime occurrence), whereas a relapse represents a full-blown return to a pattern of behavior that one has been trying to moderate or quit altogether. 

Instead of viewing your slip as a step backward, think of it as a progression on your road to recovery. Many people lapse or relapse, and if you think of each attempt at sobriety as a means of getting closer to your end goal — a lesson in your cumulative recovery learning, so to speak — this setback won’t be in vain.
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Re: looking for chizuk 31 Jan 2022 05:23 #376679

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DavidT wrote on 30 Jan 2022 15:18:

613guard wrote on 30 Jan 2022 07:00:
Just had a small fall
Will restart the count after two 9 day streaks in a row
Hoping to hit 18 straight this time 

There is a major difference between having one slip and having a relapse. A lapse represents a temporary slip or return to a previous behavior that one is trying to control or quit (usually a onetime occurrence), whereas a relapse represents a full-blown return to a pattern of behavior that one has been trying to moderate or quit altogether. 

Instead of viewing your slip as a step backward, think of it as a progression on your road to recovery. Many people lapse or relapse, and if you think of each attempt at sobriety as a means of getting closer to your end goal — a lesson in your cumulative recovery learning, so to speak — this setback won’t be in vain.



awesome chizuk
true point its hard to look at it that way the yetzer just tries to get u to give up but you cant ever ever give up
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

Check out easypeasymethod.org

My thread
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Last Edit: 31 Jan 2022 05:28 by 613guard. Reason: grammar

Re: looking for chizuk 04 Feb 2022 19:24 #376869

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Had a clean streak for 5 days then it got really bad and held myself back for 2 days then i fell
I keep doing this
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

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Re: looking for chizuk 04 Feb 2022 19:38 #376872

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Do you see a trend of what caused you to fall? Maybe you should try avoiding that activity.
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