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Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 19 Sep 2021 16:45 #372563

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Just got home, which is pretty much safe as far as internet goes. So I’m looking forward to an easier struggle over sukkos. 
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 20 Sep 2021 00:33 #372575

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I’m having an incredible day so far in terms of happiness and productivity. I don’t think I would be exaggerating by saying that I haven’t felt this good in six months, since the onset of a deep depression that lasted from Pesach till now. I’ve been slowly crawling out of it, BH, but today was a massive leap. I do not recall such a day of productivity, happiness and fulfilment in a long time.

I’ll avoid using this forum as my personal journal, (as I am won’t to do. ) but I have stumbled upon a formula that I can replicate bez”h to go back to living a happy and successful life. And as it relates to GYE struggles-I have absolutely no desire for any of the garbage that I keep falling into over the past few weeks and months. It’s just not appealing.

I know that in the past I have made the case on this site that depression and pornography/mastubration should be viewed as separate issues and addressed individually , but I now see the other side of things. Tayva is endemic to the human male condition, but the obsessive pursual of it is most often-if not always-a result of a deep feeling of emptiness and depression. A happy me is a me much better equipped to avoiding the first slip. An unhappy me is a me that sees it’s only (temporary and fleeting) salvation in acting out sexually.

May Hashem bless us all with clarity so that we may find happiness, success and purity, and to spend our lives fulfilling the aspiration so beautifully expressed by the sweet singer of Israel 

שבתי בבית ה כל ימי חיי, לחזות בנועם ה ולבקר בהיכלו
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Last Edit: 20 Sep 2021 00:34 by OivedElokim.

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 20 Sep 2021 00:41 #372576

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OivedElokim wrote on 20 Sep 2021 00:33:
I’m having an incredible day so far in terms of happiness and productivity. I don’t think I would be exaggerating by saying that I haven’t felt this good in six months, since the onset of a deep depression that lasted from Pesach till now. I’ve been slowly crawling out of it, BH, but today was a massive leap. I do not recall such a day of productivity, happiness and fulfilment in a long time.

I’ll avoid using this forum as my personal journal, (as I am won’t to do. ) but I have stumbled upon a formula that I can replicate bez”h to go back to living a happy and successful life. And as it relates to GYE struggles-I have absolutely no desire for any of the garbage that I keep falling into over the past few weeks and months. It’s just not appealing.

I know that in the past I have made the case on this site that depression and pornography/mastubration should be viewed as separate issues and addressed individually , but I now see the other side of things. Tayva is endemic to the human male condition, but the obsessive pursual of it is most often-if not always-a result of a deep feeling of emptiness and depression. A happy me is a me much better equipped to avoiding the first slip. An unhappy me is a me that sees it’s only (temporary and fleeting) salvation in acting out sexually.

May Hashem bless us all with clarity so that we may find happiness, success and purity, and to spend our lives fulfilling the aspiration so beautifully expressed by the sweet singer of Israel 

שבתי בבית ה כל ימי חיי, לחזות בנועם ה ולבקר בהיכלו

 This post made my day!!! I'm really happy to this great news my friend! May you continue trucking on your newfound freeway!!!
Last Edit: 20 Sep 2021 00:44 by Sapy.

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 20 Sep 2021 01:04 #372578

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OivedElokim wrote on 20 Sep 2021 00:33:
I’m having an incredible day so far in terms of happiness and productivity. I don’t think I would be exaggerating by saying that I haven’t felt this good in six months, since the onset of a deep depression that lasted from Pesach till now. I’ve been slowly crawling out of it, BH, but today was a massive leap. I do not recall such a day of productivity, happiness and fulfilment in a long time.

I’ll avoid using this forum as my personal journal, (as I am won’t to do. ) but I have stumbled upon a formula that I can replicate bez”h to go back to living a happy and successful life. And as it relates to GYE struggles-I have absolutely no desire for any of the garbage that I keep falling into over the past few weeks and months. It’s just not appealing.

I know that in the past I have made the case on this site that depression and pornography/mastubration should be viewed as separate issues and addressed individually , but I now see the other side of things. Tayva is endemic to the human male condition, but the obsessive pursual of it is most often-if not always-a result of a deep feeling of emptiness and depression. A happy me is a me much better equipped to avoiding the first slip. An unhappy me is a me that sees it’s only (temporary and fleeting) salvation in acting out sexually.

May Hashem bless us all with clarity so that we may find happiness, success and purity, and to spend our lives fulfilling the aspiration so beautifully expressed by the sweet singer of Israel 

שבתי בבית ה כל ימי חיי, לחזות בנועם ה ולבקר בהיכלו

Absolutely love this. Would just advise to find a way to remember/write down this feeling because the nature of addiction is that when we are in it's throes, we don't see out of our small world. When you do feel down sometime in the future we can forget this feeling and the truth you wrote.

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 20 Sep 2021 01:17 #372579

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Well I did write it here… 
Of course I plan to write more in my actual journal, god willing.
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 26 Sep 2021 01:15 #372652

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Masturbated in the shower Friday. Clean from porn for over a week, BH.
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 11 Oct 2021 21:29 #373176

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Day 0

So I have this tendency to post only when things are going relatively well or I at least feel like I have some sort of handle on the matzav. That has not been the case for the last couple weeks. 

As far as porn goes I haven’t seen it in a week, and I made a month long contract to not use unfiltered devices. So I think I’m safe on that front. However I have been masturbating every night, and I don’t currently have a plan to change that. 

On another note I have been encouraged by a friend from this site to bring up my porn and masturbation issues with my parents so that they understand a lot of my hesitation with regards to starting dating. I think I have to do it but I dread the conversation like nothing else.

Any thoughts or tips would be very helpful.
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 12 Oct 2021 02:32 #373194

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I had the conversation with one of my parents. It was difficult but I felt relieved afterwards.
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 12 Oct 2021 13:27 #373210

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So for the first time in awhile, I did not masturbate last night, BH. So I’m getting back on track.

In addition I started get up on time and getting back into the Yeshiva routine.

Treated myself to a coffee and danish to celebrate 
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Last Edit: 12 Oct 2021 13:31 by OivedElokim.

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 13 Oct 2021 13:12 #373239

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Fell last night. Eyes still clean.
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 15 Oct 2021 22:35 #373337

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OivedElokim wrote on 12 Oct 2021 02:32:
I had the conversation with one of my parents. It was difficult but I felt relieved afterwards.

I almost never give accolades on this forum, but you are a great person for doing that.
My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)

I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash

A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 10 Nov 2021 22:18 #374178

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Day 3
First time I made it this far in my count in a long time…
BH
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 11 Nov 2021 23:02 #374205

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I’m sick today and I’ve been lying around slightly bored, masturbated. Trying to avoid the “what the heck” effect.
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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