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OivedElokim-I’ll never give up

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Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 12 Mar 2021 20:04 #365311

OivedElokim Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 469 Karma: 47	Day sixteen Stayed up very late last night. Woke up very late today. But I’m grateful for the gift of life for being one of Hashem’s chosen ones for the gift of being clean. Wishing you all a wonderful Shabbos!
	For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו. ״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״ -Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress... “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”. My old thread My current thread

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 14 Mar 2021 00:17 #365325

OivedElokim Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 469 Karma: 47	Day 18 Shabbos was nice. Spent some time with friends, including a Geshmakeh hour learning Chassidus with one of ‘em. Davening was pretty decent. I am clean.
	For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו. ״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״ -Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress... “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”. My old thread My current thread Last Edit: 14 Mar 2021 00:45 by OivedElokim.

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 14 Mar 2021 02:58 #365338

OivedElokim Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 469 Karma: 47	Was having a lot of thoughts of acting out last night. Didn’t listen. Had a wet dream though, and I don’t think I have enough defenses against a serious onslaught of tayvah. Going to have to make a serious plan.
	For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו. ״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״ -Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress... “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”. My old thread My current thread

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 15 Mar 2021 04:03 #365399

OivedElokim Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 469 Karma: 47	Day nineteen Had a pretty rotten day overall with some nice moments. Found some loopholes in my current filter that I need to fix. I slipped several times today. But then I spent about an hour on the phone with one of the chevra which was a good ending to a pretty lackluster day. Heading to bed. Tomorrow will be much better, bezras Hashem.
	For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו. ״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״ -Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress... “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”. My old thread My current thread

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 15 Mar 2021 04:29 #365401

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OivedElokim wrote on 15 Mar 2021 04:03:

Day nineteen

Had a pretty rotten day overall with some nice moments. Found some loopholes in my current filter that I need to fix. I slipped several times today. But then I spent about an hour on the phone with one of the chevra which was a good ending to a pretty lackluster day. Heading to bed. Tomorrow will be much better, bezras Hashem.

Tomorrow will be much better because???

Watcha gonna do different?

My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)

I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash

A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 15 Mar 2021 04:48 #365402

OivedElokim Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 469 Karma: 47	Wake up for Shachris. Keep some of the chavrusos that I skipped today. Spend less time on my phone.
	For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו. ״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״ -Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress... “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”. My old thread My current thread

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 16 Mar 2021 01:43 #365452

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Day twenty

Made it to Shachris today.
Kept some of my daily chavrusos (more then yesterday).
Learned quite a bit today. Didn’t enjoy it for the most part. Quite frustrating, as well as reinforcing my internal narrative that I suck at learning and life more generally.
Ordered some takeout to celebrate 20 days clean.
Still feeling mildly depressed.
Taking medication and restarting therapy with a new therapist on Thursday. Hope that’ll help.

For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.

״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...

“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

My old thread

My current thread

Last Edit: 16 Mar 2021 01:44 by OivedElokim.

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 16 Mar 2021 21:29 #365541

OivedElokim Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 469 Karma: 47	Found a way to download an app on which i can view pritzus, though not full on porn. Slipped. Hope I can stop before I fall.
	For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו. ״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״ -Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress... “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”. My old thread My current thread

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 16 Mar 2021 21:50 #365543

OivedElokim Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 469 Karma: 47	It seems so sweet and tempting, but I know it’s not worth it. There’s a part of me that wishes to ignore that fact and go ahead and masturbate and face the consequences later. But that’s not how it works. No amount of depression and no lack of any filter removes by free choice and therefore my responsibility to choose the right things.
	For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו. ״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״ -Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress... “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”. My old thread My current thread

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 16 Mar 2021 21:54 #365545

Oved Current streak: 575 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 11 Karma: 0	וגם אל יהי שוטה (פרק כח)

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 16 Mar 2021 22:10 #365548

Striving Avreich Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 216 Karma: 13	OivedElokim wrote on 16 Mar 2021 21:29: Found a way to download an app on which i can view pritzus, though not full on porn. Slipped. Hope I can stop before I fall. Please, for the sake of yourself and your friends here, contact the filtering company or TAG and have them block the app!!! If you need help with that PM me. I have lots of experience and know some TAG members that could help.

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 16 Mar 2021 23:32 #365562

OivedElokim Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 469 Karma: 47	Fixed the loophole. Blocked my AppStore. Still clean, BH.
	For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו. ״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״ -Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress... “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”. My old thread My current thread

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 16 Mar 2021 23:59 #365563

Striving Avreich Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 216 Karma: 13	Mazel Tov. I can feel the extra kedusha in the air.

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 17 Mar 2021 00:11 #365566

OivedElokim Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 469 Karma: 47	I can’t
	For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו. ״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״ -Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress... “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”. My old thread My current thread

Re: OivedElokim-I’ll never give up 17 Mar 2021 01:10 #365570

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I head a story said over by a Rov on Friday night in between Minchah and Maariv.

The Rivnitzer (a known baal mofes) was known to daven at more peculiar times in line with chesboynoys, but would obviously not daven without a minyan.
He once called a bunch of jews together that hadn't davened with a a minyan yet (if I recall correctly, it was for maariv which can be davened at more peculiar times like late at night). While ushering them in to a room to daven, he stopped one of the jews in his tracks and said that he couldn't be part of the minyan because he had davened.
The person was asked, "Why did you join the minyan if you knew you had davened?" To which he replied, "I never knew my tefilos registered in Shomayim!

Sometimes we don't feel the change we make. We aren't meant to. This world is for הסתר (albeit different degrees and forms). Ok, maybe I couldn't feel the kedusha. Still, great job

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I struggle with this a lot of not feeling our affects, inspiration & results. It's not what we should be striving for, I don't think.
I'm not saying we should go purely based off of intellectual understanding and resolve. We should for sure feel meaning. But if we don't doesn't mean we are failing.
I'm not sure where the middle ground is. Thoughts and ideas are welcomed.
I'm sure the chevra here has a lot to say about this. Looking forward