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Re: Overcoming challenges 26 Apr 2021 16:30 #367447

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Funny that WhatsApp is being discussed now. I just masturbated the first time in well over a year because of something horrible someone sent out on a group. They were immediately removed put the damage was done. I hope I can put yesterday behind and not make it a long battle, but I'm bleeding...

Re: Overcoming challenges 26 Apr 2021 22:43 #367460

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Grant400 wrote on 26 Apr 2021 16:30:
Funny that WhatsApp is being discussed now. I just masturbated the first time in well over a year because of something horrible someone sent out on a group. They were immediately removed put the damage was done. I hope I can put yesterday behind and not make it a long battle, but I'm bleeding...

Sorry to hear. 
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Re: Overcoming challenges 26 Apr 2021 22:47 #367461

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Grant400 wrote on 26 Apr 2021 16:30:
Funny that WhatsApp is being discussed now. I just masturbated the first time in well over a year because of something horrible someone sent out on a group. They were immediately removed put the damage was done. I hope I can put yesterday behind and not make it a long battle, but I'm bleeding...

I wonder if the fellow who posted that whatsapp has any idea what he caused.....

Grant, move on. We are all rooting for you.
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Re: Overcoming challenges 27 Apr 2021 01:29 #367470

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Grant,

So sorry to hear. Please don't let this spiral out of control.

B"H, I'm not on social media. Thanks for reinforcing what is wrong with whatsapp.
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Re: Overcoming challenges 27 Apr 2021 02:04 #367475

Grant400 wrote on 26 Apr 2021 16:30:
Funny that WhatsApp is being discussed now. I just masturbated the first time in well over a year because of something horrible someone sent out on a group. They were immediately removed put the damage was done. I hope I can put yesterday behind and not make it a long battle, but I'm bleeding...

"...but I'm bleeding..." I feel the pain coming out from the words. 

"in well over a year" That's awesome!

Re: Overcoming challenges 27 Apr 2021 02:59 #367479

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R Grant,
Every situation is unique so I don't possibly claim to truly understand what you are going through. However,if you look at my thread over the past few weeks I went through a rough patch after a long clean streak. It is so hard to get back up after you fall from such a high place. I feel your pain. However, I believe that you have what it takes to get past this and move on to an even stronger and more clear place. A place where you have more clarity and perhaps more of an appreciation for the struggle that appears to be our special gift from Hashem
Hatzlocha my friend

Re: Overcoming challenges 27 Apr 2021 05:11 #367484

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Grant400 wrote on 26 Apr 2021 16:30:
Funny that WhatsApp is being discussed now. I just masturbated the first time in well over a year because of something horrible someone sent out on a group. They were immediately removed put the damage was done. I hope I can put yesterday behind and not make it a long battle, but I'm bleeding...

It may be your bleeding but nothing is over yet....the game has just begun to start.

With any sports game, when the sun is shining and perfect game weather it's usually a good game and all enjoy but when it starts to rain and the players start getting dirty from slipping and falling on the ground that's when the game is played on a whole different level of determination
I hope you get right back on the wagon 
Much hatzlocha!

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Re: Overcoming challenges 27 Apr 2021 15:12 #367496

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Thank you all for your wonderful responses. Bh as of now I am doing great. I am hopeful that I am in a place where a fall doesn't mean a binge. I am only going to look forward iyh. Is it hard yes, but I'm fighting back so far.

About what HHM wrote. The guy most definitely knew. It was a spammer promoting a porn site and it had a picture attached. That was enough to do me in unfortunately. I didn't go on the site (no access), but just the picture and caption got me. It's still stuck in my brain.

Oh well.
Last Edit: 27 Apr 2021 15:39 by Grant400.

Re: Overcoming challenges 27 Apr 2021 19:19 #367519

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Great attitude. A fall should never develop into a binge. It was a mistake....just move on.    As far as the picture sticking in your mind, it will iyh diminish with time, don't panic. Of course if you are like me, it will reappear when spaced out during shemona esreh…...just laugh it off.
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Re: Overcoming challenges 29 Apr 2021 04:31 #367632

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This is real inspiration! Grant you have an amazing attitude and you didn't put yourself in a tough situation. You are tremendous just for staying strong and keeping a positive attitude! Hashem should give you the kochos to stay strong and continue to climb!!

Re: Overcoming challenges 03 May 2021 04:50 #367843

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160 days clean

Thank you Hashem for giving me the strength to hold on!

With Hashems help I hope I will have continued strength to carry on.


a reminder to myself:
1-One day at a time.
2-an urge is just an urge

wishing you'all well and much success!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Last Edit: 03 May 2021 04:52 by Zedj.

Re: Overcoming challenges 07 May 2021 14:50 #368148

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Grant400 wrote on 26 Apr 2021 16:30:
Funny that WhatsApp is being discussed now. I just masturbated the first time in well over a year because of something horrible someone sent out on a group. They were immediately removed put the damage was done. I hope I can put yesterday behind and not make it a long battle, but I'm bleeding...

i guess the Gedolim know what they are talking about when they discourage things like watsapp. Do you need watsapp for parnasa, or do you have it just for chilling?
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Re: Overcoming challenges 07 May 2021 14:58 #368149

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 09 Mar 2021 12:12:
YouTube has been the doorway to falling for too many guys. Someone will have a big zchus when he develops a similar site that is simply kosher from shmutz and apikorsus. Anyone out there?

then youtube wont be popular anymore...
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Re: Overcoming challenges 07 May 2021 22:24 #368184

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Good Shabbos

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 13 May 2021 05:08 #368501

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Thank you Hashem for giving me the strength to come so far!

There are times that I do get overwhelmed and feel that I need to work harder on myself to make sure I never ever fall again.
apparently that is not the best mehalech to have so im trying to keep it cool and not be hyper focused on recovery in a way that may have a negative impact on me. 
Hence the fact I'm not posting as often.

I don't know if it will help much but for now we are in trail mode.

In other news:
G-D willing in 10 days from now I will be 6 months clean! 

I Don't think I ever gave up hope that one day I would be clean but I'm still grappling with the fact that it's actually happening!

I cant wait to celebrate such a huge milestone (for me) with you'all!

Wishing you all well!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

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