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Scientific studies show that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong!

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Re: Freedom 17 Aug 2020 03:47 #353848

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Day 14: clean.

Level 4 completed and trucking on
Your best teacher for success is your last mistake

Re: Freedom 17 Aug 2020 10:30 #353858

Thanks for all the updates Meyer. You're a chizuk to us all.

יהי רצון שהדברים לתועלת

Today I will do what others won't, so tomorrow I can do what others can't.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
We all make choices in life, but in the end, our choices make us.

Re: Freedom 18 Aug 2020 01:16 #353904

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Day 15: clean.

​Had a difficult time today, did some exercise to help 
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Re: Freedom 18 Aug 2020 20:52 #353956

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Fell today...I can’t do this anymore, every time I make progress I take 2 steps back...why am I trying?
Your best teacher for success is your last mistake

Re: Freedom 18 Aug 2020 21:05 #353957

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You took 2 steps back but you also took 15 steps forward. 
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."

"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."

- General Grant



My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: Freedom 18 Aug 2020 22:56 #353966

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Day 1: 

Was going to give up and forget about trying to stay clean, yes I did fall, yes I did take two steps back but like Gevura said I went 15 steps forward, I checked my diary and when I began fighting with P (non-issue at this point, only M is problematic now) I fell at 14 days, I guess this is why it’s important to have the diary. Also when I fell several times I thought I did it so many times that I should give up, I checked the diary then and it was only 3 times. The yetzer hara is trying to trick me and although I fell today, I am going to give it my all this time around. May hashem help me.
Your best teacher for success is your last mistake
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Re: Freedom 19 Aug 2020 05:22 #353985

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Meyer, you are amazing, and an inspiration to all, so continue fighting for us too!

It's hard but important to keep in mind that at the end of the day it isn't about the streak. It's about staying clean overall for as long as possible. Past successes will remain forever etched in stone. They cannot be undone. A fall is only a fall in that specific battle. It has zero effect on the past or the future. We cannot expect a 100% success rate constantly. We are not angels. Be proud of what you did in the past, and what you will do in the future. We are cheering you on!

                                   Grant

Re: Freedom 20 Aug 2020 01:47 #354023

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Day 2: Clean.
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Re: Freedom 20 Aug 2020 03:21 #354029

Grant400 wrote on 19 Aug 2020 05:22:
Meyer, you are amazing, and an inspiration to all, so continue fighting for us too!

It's hard but important to keep in mind that at the end of the day it isn't about the streak. It's about staying clean overall for as long as possible. Past successes will remain forever etched in stone. They cannot be undone. A fall is only a fall in that specific battle. It has zero effect on the past or the future. We cannot expect a 100% success rate constantly. We are not angels. Be proud of what you did in the past, and what you will do in the future. We are cheering you on!

                                   Grant

 I just want to second this thought, and, in my opinion, truth. In my experience, a side benefit of understanding and believing this, is that there is a lot less anxiety about falling. Because, I knew that even if I fell, it ain't the end of the world. Consequently, I fell less because anxiety happened to be a massive trigger for me.
If you are really bored, you can check out my original thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/305558-Journey-of-one-day-at-a-time 

"Think good and it will be good!"

Re: Freedom 21 Aug 2020 03:04 #354058

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Day 3: Clean! 
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Re: Freedom 24 Aug 2020 11:02 #354136

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Day 4: Clean

Day 5: Clean

Day 6: Clean
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Re: Freedom 24 Aug 2020 14:13 #354143

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Keep it up!! We're here for you!!
אם יהיו חטאיכם כשנים, כשלג ילבינו

Re: Freedom 25 Aug 2020 02:03 #354160

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Day 7: Clean. 
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Re: Freedom 27 Aug 2020 01:49 #354262

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Day 8: Clean

Day 9: Clean
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Re: Freedom 28 Aug 2020 02:46 #354300

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Day 10: Clean
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