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Re: Singularity's Journey 20 Feb 2017 15:08 #306268

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Singularity wrote on 20 Feb 2017 08:38:
Friday night was a nightmare. Baby woke up, screaming uncontrollably and we couldn't do anything about it. And I acted like a baby, resentful, angry etc. All he wanted was a pickle, lol, but it took a LONG time to discover that. 


Sounds like my wife when she was expecting
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וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...


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Re: Singularity's Journey 20 Feb 2017 20:18 #306320

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Singularity, sorry you are having a rough time . It sounds like you are beating yourself up a bit too much. At the same time living in a neighborhood and getting depressed from the neighbor's wealth, etc. can get a person down. Do you have a rav you can turn to to discuss this with? Wishing you true simchas hachaim!
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Re: Singularity's Journey 20 Feb 2017 23:56 #306338

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I'm sorry to hear about all that stuff.

It's a tough question to answer, even if we would know all the minute details. What constitutes a need and what is regardedI as a want? I surely don't know. I wish you clarity, for that leads to happiness.

Can you discuss the house issue with your wife?
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: Singularity's Journey 20 Feb 2017 23:58 #306339

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Gevura Shebyesod wrote on 20 Feb 2017 15:08:

Singularity wrote on 20 Feb 2017 08:38:
Friday night was a nightmare. Baby woke up, screaming uncontrollably and we couldn't do anything about it. And I acted like a baby, resentful, angry etc. All he wanted was a pickle, lol, but it took a LONG time to discover that. 



Sounds like my wife when she was expecting

Just hope it didn't take you THAT long.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: Singularity's Journey 21 Feb 2017 08:02 #306364

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cordnoy wrote on 20 Feb 2017 23:56:
I'm sorry to hear about all that stuff.

It's a tough question to answer, even if we would know all the minute details. What constitutes a need and what is regardedI as a want? I surely don't know. I wish you clarity, for that leads to happiness.

Can you discuss the house issue with your wife?

I have, on several occasions. 

Problem is I feel quite dry in my Yiddishkeit.
Dov explains the issue in Rav Twerski's new book, but he says it will bounce back with more enriched, real Judaism as opposed to the fake semantics I've been doing so far.

And I understand that. I just feel like, if I don't daven we won't get anything, haha. But I know God doesn't work that way. Well I hope so. And I try, sometimes.

Hmm. Just gotta KOT. Thanks everyone here for all the luvs.
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Re: Singularity's Journey 21 Feb 2017 12:34 #306371

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Singularity wrote on 21 Feb 2017 08:02:

cordnoy wrote on 20 Feb 2017 23:56:
I'm sorry to hear about all that stuff.

It's a tough question to answer, even if we would know all the minute details. What constitutes a need and what is regardedI as a want? I surely don't know. I wish you clarity, for that leads to happiness.

Can you discuss the house issue with your wife?

I have, on several occasions. 

Problem is I feel quite dry in my Yiddishkeit.
Dov explains the issue in Rav Twerski's new book, but he says it will bounce back with more enriched, real Judaism as opposed to the fake semantics I've been doing so far.

And I understand that. I just feel like, if I don't daven we won't get anything, haha. But I know God doesn't work that way. Well I hope so. And I try, sometimes.

Hmm. Just gotta KOT. Thanks everyone here for all the luvs.

Sorry, but I am not followin'.
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Singularity's Journey 28 Feb 2017 10:35 #307031

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cordnoy wrote on 21 Feb 2017 12:34:

Singularity wrote on 21 Feb 2017 08:02:

cordnoy wrote on 20 Feb 2017 23:56:
I'm sorry to hear about all that stuff.

It's a tough question to answer, even if we would know all the minute details. What constitutes a need and what is regardedI as a want? I surely don't know. I wish you clarity, for that leads to happiness.

Can you discuss the house issue with your wife?

I have, on several occasions. 

Problem is I feel quite dry in my Yiddishkeit.
Dov explains the issue in Rav Twerski's new book, but he says it will bounce back with more enriched, real Judaism as opposed to the fake semantics I've been doing so far.

And I understand that. I just feel like, if I don't daven we won't get anything, haha. But I know God doesn't work that way. Well I hope so. And I try, sometimes.

Hmm. Just gotta KOT. Thanks everyone here for all the luvs.

Sorry, but I am not followin'.

Maybe I wasn't followin' my'sel'f'.

Hmm..

Will he do it......?
"Vegeta, what does the scouter say about his sobriety level?"
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Re: Singularity's Journey 01 Mar 2017 12:01 #307136

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Re: Singularity's Journey 01 Mar 2017 12:03 #307137

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Mazel tov.

Continued hatzlachah.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Singularity's Journey 01 Mar 2017 12:59 #307141

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BH

Thank God we're not alcoholics; let's crack open the champagne.

Now real life has a chance to begin.

Check-in: Last night, at Maariv, these two secular teenagers came together to say kaddish. They've been coming around the minyanim around here, guess just to honour their mother/father whom they lost, or something. It's heartbreaking. And I'm standing there saying to myself, "Oh, I'll walk up to them, shake their hands! Say I'm so moved by them etc..." Then I got anxious because that's well I don't just do stuff like that.

Then I stopped.

Perhaps that's not my tachlis. I'm not an outgoing guy. Why do I waste so much energy on stuff like this? And I never do it. Why can't I just nod in solemn admiration and take a lesson home with me, quietly. That's my avodah. 

Well, KOT y'all. Thanks for all your support.
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Re: Singularity's Journey 01 Mar 2017 13:09 #307142

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Singularity wrote on 01 Mar 2017 12:59:
BH

Thank God we're not alcoholics; let's crack open the champagne.

Speak for hic yourself.

AndI besides, we thank God for hic everythin', no matter what we are.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: Singularity's Journey 01 Mar 2017 13:18 #307143

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Singularity wrote on 01 Mar 2017 12:59:
BH

Thank God we're not alcoholics; let's crack open the champagne.

Speak for yourself. 

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Re: Singularity's Journey 01 Mar 2017 15:51 #307149

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Mazeltov!!!!

Kiddush!!
Pass the boerewors and biltong.
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...


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"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."

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Re: Singularity's Journey 01 Mar 2017 15:59 #307150

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Gevura Shebyesod wrote on 01 Mar 2017 15:51:
Mazeltov!!!!

Kiddush!!
Pass the boerewors and biltong.

My friend says "Chay the boerewors..." 
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Re: Singularity's Journey 01 Mar 2017 18:27 #307161

Mazel Tov! So great! 
If you are really bored, you can check out my original thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/305558-Journey-of-one-day-at-a-time 

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