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After a long tome i'm back again
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 22 Apr 2010 00:17 #62358

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hey BSD!
i'm not sure how much of a boost this is, but take comfort in knowing that Hashem is proud that you're still fighting and that you are coming to the forum for help. the simple fact that you keep working is an inspiration. just from my own experience, just keep at it! as long as you keep at it, results will eventually come!

think about it like this: where we both are (the trip to 90 days) can sometimes seem to be like running on a tredmill. we're stuck with the same surroundings and it seems like we're getting nowhere despite all of the work we're putting into this. but when you look down at how far you've travelled, the treadmill doesnt read miles, or, heck, even days but the counter reads infinity! remember, every moment that you work towards holiness is a timeless bond between you and Hashem that will never go away. if thats not a boost, i dunno what is. 

we're all rooting for ya!!!!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 23 Apr 2010 07:12 #62643

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Thanx shlomo for the post it really is a boost and lays down our struggle in the right perspective!
Thanks once again and hatzlocha in ur journey to 90 and on!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 25 Apr 2010 07:36 #62885

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B"h i had a great shabbos!
I now have had with Hashems help 2 clean days!
I just have to focus on today!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 25 Apr 2010 08:09 #62889

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Awesome!

Today is the only day you need to focus on. Can you stay clean for today? Just today? Yes, you can. Right now, no matter how strong the urge is, you can stay clean - for a day at a time, an hour at a time, 5 minutes at a time.

Rock on!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 26 Apr 2010 22:34 #63157

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Thanks guys for all ur posts they are mamesh mechazek me!
With Hashems help i'm still clean and holding at 4 days!
I just keep davening for help that Hashem should keep helping me (and all of us!) and continue to guide me so that we dont c"v fall for the traps of the y"h!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 27 Apr 2010 00:59 #63187

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4 days - that's great! Keep it up, and remember, one day at a time...you can prepare for future tests, but don't focus on them. Right now, the only urges you need to fight are the ones that are here right now. Tomorrow's urges? Not your problem.

I know it helps me if I visualize myself being tempted, and just getting up and walking out of the room. So when the situation actually occurs, I already have training in walking away.

And thanks for your davening - it helps!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 27 Apr 2010 23:35 #63332

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Thank you Hashem for 5 clean days!
I had a strange dream last nite- in my dream i had a massive test and other people failed and i managed not to fall! It felt amazing!
I woke up in the morning with fresh chizuk! 
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 28 Apr 2010 21:20 #63476

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That's great - see? That's where you're holding, that's what you're capable of!

It's funny, I've had a few dreams like that as well...well, it was just me, but basically, I had the chance to do an aveirah, and I walked away! It feels great!  ;D
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 29 Apr 2010 20:38 #63600

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Thanks for all ur help Silentb!
B"h i'm up to day 7! I just keep davening to Hashem for help with y"h and that i shouldn't get to confident- i think that has always been my downful!
When i wake up i say modeh ani and thank Hashem that i'm still clean and ask for help to stay clean for that day!
With His help we'll succeed!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 30 Apr 2010 00:37 #63638

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That sounds like a great approach - please continue to let us know how you're doing! We care about you, and also (as I've said before), posting is a good way to stay focused, and stay in touch with how you're feeling!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 01 May 2010 22:09 #63825

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Thank you Hashem -i'm still clean!
B"h i think i'm now 8 days clean! Had a great shabbos and just wanna  try carry on 1 day at a time!
Thanks guys for all the chizuk so far- u can't imagine how much it helps just seeing other people replies to my posts- shows i'm not doing this alone!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 02 May 2010 03:46 #63845

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8 days is great!

How are you feeling about all this?
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 24 May 2010 15:43 #66415

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I'm back again after a break from internet access!
During my break i found that although i wasn't using the net. But since i wasn't involved in gye i was very easily tempted to look around whilst on the street etc- which caused me to fall. However the whole reason i got rid of my filtered net was becaused i found a way round it and fell!
What i've come to realise is that i can't shteig without gye and if you're not shteiging then you're falling!!
So today is a new start!
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Re: After a long tome i'm back again 24 May 2010 22:54 #66527

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That realization is very valuable - how are things going?
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