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TOPIC: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 8500 Views
Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 18 Sep 2015 18:23 #264149
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Shlomo24 wrote:
listen guys, apparently selfloathing (uch, i hate the name, sorry  ) has this tradition, that's ok. other people don't, that's also ok.if mitzva night is too pressuring, maybe have a talk with your wife about it? Absolutely, just presenting an option he may not have heard of. |
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 21 Sep 2015 00:34 #264230
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 21 Sep 2015 10:10 #264278
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 21 Sep 2015 14:45 #264297
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Angel wrote:
Selfloathing, i got really frustrated a while back and that was the real beginning to my ending. I am cleaner than I have ever been in my entire postpubescent life. The big difference between now and then, for me , is that a few months ago I got really upset at myself. Usually I get depressed and dissapointed and close up for the rest of the day but this time was different. I was upset at myself but not for being a hypocrite but rather for letting something so below me take me over. I realized when I quit smoking a while back that I never felt ashamed to smoke but when I quit I felt above it so I felt like being above it was my place and not lowering myself to that level. The same applies for porn/ masturbating etc. I am above it . My father is the king of the universe. I don't want to lower myself to such dirt .I am way above it. I trult feel that having this self worth mixed with that anger truly helped me overcome my addiction (so far bli ayin hara) Hi Angel, That's a very interesting point you make. My turning point was triggered by something else, but once I started making real progress, and once or twice I slipped I experienced for the first time, a real anger against the Yetzer Hara, as if it was an independent being that had deliberately done something malicious to cause me a major loss and a lot of pain. He is truly  It was a new and liberating experience. Hatzlacha to all of us for continued victories. |
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 24 Sep 2015 19:57 #264581
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 24 Sep 2015 20:08 #264582
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 24 Sep 2015 20:11 #264583
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 25 Sep 2015 13:56 #264654
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 25 Sep 2015 14:29 #264657
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 25 Sep 2015 16:37 #264678
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 25 Sep 2015 17:10 #264685
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Let Hashem Do His Job!
We need to jump off the conveyor belt of life and walk on our own. You cannot make yourself feel something you do not feel, but you can make yourself do right in spite of your feelings. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. |
Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 25 Sep 2015 19:18 #264696
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 25 Sep 2015 19:19 #264698
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Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 25 Sep 2015 20:02 #264704
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Let Hashem Do His Job!
We need to jump off the conveyor belt of life and walk on our own. You cannot make yourself feel something you do not feel, but you can make yourself do right in spite of your feelings. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. |
Re: Can 90 Days Undo 21 years of damage? 25 Sep 2015 21:49 #264717
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