Read once, then minimize to save screen space.

Forum Overview

Post on the forum to get support, tell your story and reach out for help when feeling weak!

You will never be alone in this struggle again.

The GYE forum is anonymous platform of group support, and a life-line of chizuk for hundreds of people in exactly your situation. 

To use the forum you need to first become a member of the site, sign up here.

After signing up to the site, go to the forum, enter one of our boards and press "New Topic" to begin posting! 
Welcome, Guest
GYE
Forum for Jewish Men
On the Way to 90-Days

enough is enough!
(0 viewing) 
Scientific studies show that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong!
Reply Topic
New Topic

TOPIC: enough is enough! 35518 Views

Re: enough is enough! 04 Jun 2020 04:43 #350744

  • i-man
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 521
  • Karma: 55
TYH ! 90 days ! Haven’t been there in 2 years !
this time around the quality was much better too , meaning less close calls and being involved with tayva , more distancing if you will...
more thoughts later about how I made it work .

Re: enough is enough! 05 Jun 2020 01:56 #350803

i-man wrote on 04 Jun 2020 04:43:
TYH ! 90 days ! Haven’t been there in 2 years !
this time around the quality was much better too , meaning less close calls and being involved with tayva , more distancing if you will...
more thoughts later about how I made it work .

Mazel tov brother! Looking forward to hearing your insights on what worked for you. KUTGW!
If you are really bored, you can check out my original thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/305558-Journey-of-one-day-at-a-time 

"Think good and it will be good!"

Re: enough is enough! 05 Jun 2020 05:50 #350822

woohooooo mazel tov! to many many more days!!
"You will never be entirely comfortable. This is the truth behind the champion – he is always fighting something. To do otherwise is to settle."
Battle on, and I always take advice.

Re: enough is enough! 05 Jun 2020 06:25 #350824

  • i-man
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 521
  • Karma: 55

Re: enough is enough! 05 Jun 2020 10:29 #350829

  • lionking
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 864
  • Karma: 97
i-man wrote on 05 Jun 2020 06:25:


Wow, pretty profound tip on how to get to 90 days.
Keeping a blank mind, definitely helps!
My email address is: growinghigher613@gmail.com

Re: enough is enough! 05 Jun 2020 12:49 #350836

  • i-man
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 521
  • Karma: 55
i-man wrote on 05 Jun 2020 06:25:


That was supposed to say :  I just typed a long post that got eaten by the post monster

Re: enough is enough! 05 Jun 2020 12:51 #350837

  • i-man
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 521
  • Karma: 55
i-man wrote on 05 Jun 2020 12:49:

i-man wrote on 05 Jun 2020 06:25:



That was supposed to say :  I just typed a long post that got eaten by the post monster

And again , on this one it left out half of what I wrote including the head exploding emoji

Re: enough is enough! 09 Jun 2020 23:08 #350980

  • Hashem Help Me
  • Current streak: 1869 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 2995
Mazel tov buddy. Keep it up and keep inspiring.
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: enough is enough! 10 Jun 2020 03:25 #350988

  • Realestatemogul
  • Current streak: 203 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 387
  • Karma: 29
Congrats!! I''YH many more GOOD days

I could totally relate btw. The post monster has eaten my posts in the past as well...

Re: enough is enough! 10 Jun 2020 03:43 #350992

  • trying613
  • Current streak: 40 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Fresh Boarder
  • Posts: 16
  • Karma: 1
Hey, you’re story and situation sounds very similar to mine. Feel like I can relate exactly 

Re: enough is enough! 11 Jun 2020 17:17 #351064

  • i-man
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 521
  • Karma: 55
I feel that the biggest factor in staying clean is prevention, I now have accountability software on my PC ,and switched my Mobile to one that has much better filtering options, I know it’s an old debate here ,but for me without a doubt, ease of access is my worst enemy.
I see it  like Toivel vsheretz b’yado, I can try to stay clean all I want ,but if with one click  I could fall and with so many different types of triggers out there , it won’t work.

Re: enough is enough! 12 Jun 2020 03:49 #351086

  • Hashem Help Me
  • Current streak: 1869 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 2995
i-man wrote on 11 Jun 2020 17:17:
 I know it’s an old debate here ,but for me without a doubt, ease of access is my worst enemy.


For the vast majority of guys who frequent GYE, removing ease of access is a major game changer. It takes courage to filter and avoid. One also must quiet that whispering - but most mistaken - voice that keeps saying "Be a man - have access and stay clean - that shows yiras shomayim". Nothing could be farther from the truth.
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: enough is enough! 14 Jun 2020 06:35 #351140

@i-man Happy to hear filters help you. I feel like I should share my experience: filters have always made things harder for me and every long clean streak was when I did not have filters. I see a tendency in the pro filter community to try and make it seem like people who don't have filters are irresponsible and bound to mess up. This is simply not true. As always, everyone should do what works for them, and if there are halachic aspects that you care about, ask your rov or LOR. 
If you are really bored, you can check out my original thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/305558-Journey-of-one-day-at-a-time 

"Think good and it will be good!"

Re: enough is enough! 14 Jun 2020 14:29 #351156

  • i-man
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 521
  • Karma: 55
Ihavestrength wrote on 14 Jun 2020 06:35:
@i-man Happy to hear filters help you. I feel like I should share my experience: filters have always made things harder for me and every long clean streak was when I did not have filters. I see a tendency in the pro filter community to try and make it seem like people who don't have filters are irresponsible and bound to mess up. This is simply not true. As always, everyone should do what works for them, and if there are halachic aspects that you care about, ask your rov or LOR. 

Obviously not everyone operates the same way ,  and if someone honestly does better without than that’s great, I personally would do great most of the time ,  but when stress, anxiety, exhaustion , depression , boredom, etc show up I need more than a few clicks between me and the drug, the more I make it not an option the less it's going to occur.

Re: enough is enough! 14 Jun 2020 14:32 #351159

  • i-man
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 521
  • Karma: 55
Btw many filters didn't work for me, I've spent massive amounts of time getting around them, that's why accountability software is so good for me, I'm not even starting to look for an entrance to the slippery slope 
Reply Topic
New Topic
GYE
Forum for Jewish Men
On the Way to 90-Days
Moderators: skeptical, the.guard, yechidah, Kedusha, Dov, cordnoy, MenachemGYE, smartlakewood
Powered by Kunena
Time to create page: 0.53 seconds

Are you sure?

Yes