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Bigmoish's path to tahara
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Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 13 Aug 2014 20:28 #237346

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so can we hear some Calvin & Hobbes al pi sod?
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
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The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
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Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 13 Aug 2014 21:08 #237350

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That is only allowed in the practical kabalah thread!!!

Don't mess up the site zemmy!!!
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Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 13 Aug 2014 22:22 #237360

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“Oh, great altar of passive entertainment, bestow upon me thy discordant images at such speed as to render linear thought impossible!” - Calvin, praying to TV
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www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
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Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 13 Aug 2014 23:08 #237368

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Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 13 Aug 2014 23:56 #237371

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ok folks, b'reshus.

in perek 1, posuk 18, it says
V'taireh ki misametzes...see posuk..
poshut p'shat is that naomi saw that rus really trying to staying with her, so she stopped trying to persuade her not to follow her.
says the gaon, what naomi really saw was that rus was having a real struggle with herself and she succeeded. that means it was a fight inside her, and the "imutz" was
a sign of struggle and victory. but, says the gaon, if rus just would have followed without a struggle, it not yet a sign that she is following for the right reasons.
the koach to do something good, with a lot of enthuiasam, normally doesn't come from the good side, rather it is a disguised baddie.
but since she struggled in the decision, it was a sign of a good choice. ad kan.

please, don't get me wrong, and think i use the rule all the time in everything i do, but i have found it to work sometimes in decision making.
i don't know if this rule applies to everyone or in every circumstance, but i just mentioned it because i was asked.
i love you all

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Aug 2014 18:03 #237422

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Hmmm, Expert Boarder. It's got a nice ring. I've never really been an expert at anything before, so I'll take it. Just gonna put this sign on my desk, "Big Moish, E.B." Sweet.
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www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 18 Aug 2014 19:31 #237559

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I had a fall on motzo'ei shabbos and been feeling down. I just don't think I feel that "life or death" urgency that I know is required to stay clean. I felt it 3 weeks ago, and I still know that if I don't buckle down, my marriage and my life will be miserable, but it's getting harder to internalize for some reason.
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www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 18 Aug 2014 19:45 #237560

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Awareness of the unmanageability of our lives was not apparent to us at first. But as we recovered from shock and spiritual blindness, we began to see how we were unable to function without lust, negative attitudes, and dependencies holding our lives together. Reaching the point of utter despair did not always come right away; it came to some of us only after we had been in the fellowship for awhile. The full effect of Step One seems to come gradually or in stages, with the unfolding realization of our unsoundness. It is out of this inner honesty with ourselves that the feelings of hope and forgiveness flow.
We were free to see and admit what we really were inside because we were finally free from having to act out what we were.
How long and how cleverly we had defended our right to wrong ourselves and others, and how long we denied there was any wrong at all! But every wrong attitude and act stored up its own punishment against us from within, until finally, the cumulative weight of our wrongs brought us to our knees.
The Third Option
Before finally giving up, we had tried one or the other of two options: On the one hand, we expressed our obsession by acting it out. On the other hand, we tried suppressing it by drinking, drugging, eating, or by fighting it with white knuckle willpower. And with what a show of promises and resolutions! Many of us switched from acting out to suppression, back and forth.
Neither option brought us the peace we sought so desperately. Expressing the obsession made it progress relentlessly, on and on, and suppressing it only made the pressurebuild inside until something had to give. Both options made it worse; we were between a rock and a hard place. We never knew there was another option-surrender. What a beautiful liberating word it has become to those of us who do it!
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Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 18 Aug 2014 19:46 #237561

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(?ר' משה, עמך אנכי... (בצרה

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 18 Aug 2014 20:12 #237563

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cordnoy wrote:
Awareness of the unmanageability of our lives was not apparent to us at first. But as we recovered from shock and spiritual blindness, we began to see how we were unable to function without lust, negative attitudes, and dependencies holding our lives together. Reaching the point of utter despair did not always come right away; it came to some of us only after we had been in the fellowship for awhile.

I guess my difficulty is in this point. What if I go my whole life without "reaching the point of utter despair?" I thought I was there, but now I'm pretty sure I'm not.
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www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 18 Aug 2014 21:02 #237569

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There are other reasons to change as well.

It happens to be that this was my impetus (at least the first two times).

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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 19 Aug 2014 04:59 #237604

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Hi Moishe!!!

we cant always have that feeling of life and death, if we would must guys here would read the info and never really have to come back here again, like everything in life and ruchnius for sure we can't always feel that feeling we had when we started,

so in other words this is life and thats why we are all here,

keep on posting and smiling from ear to ear that you made it to the site and there is hope (really),

KOMT!!!

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 19 Aug 2014 19:26 #237624

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Thanks for all your support. Time to get back on the truck.
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www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 19 Aug 2014 20:22 #237628

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Come along...we're ridin', ridin' ridin'...on the....tr....ain?
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 19 Aug 2014 21:17 #237638

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Hopefully a more successful ride than this one...

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My threads:
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!
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