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Bigmoish's path to tahara
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Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 29 Oct 2014 01:59 #242259

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Bigmoish wrote:
Was thinking about calling someone this morning, but I chickened out. The excuses I gave myself were:
a) Too early in the morning (Americans)
b) Long distance call (Canadians)
c) Still the middle of 1st seder (Israelis - 6 hour dif. this week)

oisek b'talmud torah is not potur min hamitzva

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 29 Oct 2014 02:07 #242260

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but that is irrelevant since the excuses are just excuses and answereing them up will usually not make us any closer to taking the step

I have pushed off calling someone for months cuz its too early or late or i'm busy or maybe he's busy or...

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 29 Oct 2014 05:12 #242271

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You can do it to kil!

YOU GUYS CAN KILL IT! But don't kill your mentor and if you do, bigmoish please call the other Canadian number
I am happy to speak on the phone. Please email me at dms1234ongye@gmail.com

My name is Daniel, I go to face to face meetings and I work the 12 steps with a sponsor. 

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 29 Oct 2014 19:23 #242323

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Lately, one of the people I've been chatting with on gmail is "mgsbms."
He can't access GYE because of his filter (he only connected to me through a glitch, which has since been fixed).
He would appreciate for anyone who is interested to reach out to him, so he can stay out of isolation.
His email is: mgsbms@gmail.com

Kol Tuv
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My threads:
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 05 Nov 2014 01:52 #242720

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Bigmoish wrote:
Lately, one of the people I've been chatting with on gmail is "mgsbms."
He can't access GYE because of his filter (he only connected to me through a glitch, which has since been fixed).
He would appreciate for anyone who is interested to reach out to him, so he can stay out of isolation.
His email is: mgsbms@gmail.com

Kol Tuv


im looking to install a filter. Can anyone recommend the ones that wont block GYE? that would suck
My two favorite Rebbe Nachman quotes:

The whole world is a narrow bridge; the main thing is to not be afraid.

If you won't be better tomorrow than you were today, then what do you need tomorrow for?

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 05 Nov 2014 02:23 #242728

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Most filters let you whitelist sites so you can just add GYE to the list.
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."

"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."

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Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Nov 2014 06:05 #243393

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Sister in law is
making me nuts. Time to call
a G-Y-E friend.
Handbook | Skep's Tips
My threads:
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Nov 2014 06:13 #243394

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Bigmoish wrote:
Time to call
a G-Y-E friend.


Now what time is that???..........anytime!!!!

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Nov 2014 07:14 #243397

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Bigmoish wrote:
Sister in law is
making me nuts. Time to call
a G-Y-E friend.


nu!
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Nov 2014 18:13 #243410

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Iboiyah lehu,

Is your sister in law nuts, and making you nuts through osmosis,
Or is she activating a hidden nuts inside of you,
Or are you really not going nuts, rather it's the rest of the world who are crazy, and since everyone else is nuts you feel as if you're the crazy one?
Or are you crazy, and she's making you feel normal?

The N"M are if calling a gye friend is making you normal again, or returning you to your default state of crazy.

(Just getting you back into learning mode for yarchei kallah)

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Nov 2014 20:24 #243432

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תא שמע דאתמר אמר ר' ישראל דגן מי שהוא לא משוגע בעולם הזה הוא לא נורמלי
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Nov 2014 20:28 #243433

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ועד״ז שמעתי מאדם גדול בדורינו: אתה חייב להיות קצת משוגע אם אתה רוצה להישאר בחיים היום, ודי לחכימא ודו״ק
אלא יש לו לייחד כל מעשיו לשמו הגדול לבד, ולא ישתף עמו דבר אחר
That's the goal. The key to everything. Working on it, bs"d.

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Nov 2014 20:54 #243435

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I understand what the oilam is sayin', but I'd like to put this in perspective, and I'd like us to back off from Big Moish.
I know many stories from fellows on this site, and I certainly know my own.
Which one of us is not crazy?
The extent we would go for our personal desire, obsession and fetish!
Now, there are professionals who state the claim that most of these passions are well within the realm of men expressin' their sexuality, but I will not go there.
Let us even say that we are wrong (as frum Jews) or extreme (on the planet), but ultimately, that is our obsession; that is our nisayon; this is our sickness!

Now, I am not pickin' on Inna for the term 'meshuga,' for that is really what it is...meshuga l'oso davar....but it is not so simple for Big Moish to remove his s.i.l. from his mind; it is not so simple for others to remove their fixation; and yes, it ain't so easy for me either! I have said goodbye several times already in the past three years, only to say hello once again. What's up with that? My fixation will be the in-depth topic of discussion by my next appointment with specialist, so perhaps that will become clearer.

In any event....fixation, obsession, fetish, etc. whatever da Hell it is...it is much easier to ignore when the battle cry simply is: Today! Damn it! Today!

b'hatzlachah
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Nov 2014 22:02 #243462

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Machshovo Tova wrote:
Is ________ pancakes?

Machshovo wrote on 08 May 2012 14:36:

The distinction between one who is addicted to something and one who just 'likes' the same thing, can perhaps be understood by the following episode:

A man walks into a shrink's office.
- Yes, what can I do for you?
- My wife sent me here.
- Why did she send you here?
- Because I like pancakes.
- Because you like pancakes? I also like pancakes.
- You also like pancakes?! Come to my house! I have a whole basement full of pancakes!!!

('Food' for thought.)

MT
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ

Re: Bigmoish's path to tahara 14 Nov 2014 22:15 #243465

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I am not sure I chap the complete and true amkus of the mashal.

Explain please...if you have the time.

thank you
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.
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