hi strive613 ,you brought up a very good point. i just wanted to say that this that i posted about the brother and sister was not to be used as a tool to stop someone in their tracks when they have that feeling to fall ,i dont know what can help at such a moment, i dont know if anyone here does really,( of course taphsic and calling a sponser are great ideas, ) not saying its not possible , im sure all of us have had successes in that at one time or another . what i just wanted to say to share was a feeling of admiration about two yidden , after something comparable to a holocaust has happened, their life hanging in the balance without knowing what morning will bring,when faced with a temptation ,not knowing who the other person was ,still remembered who they were .
maybe that wont stop us when we're triggered , but maybe it could inspire us to think how important it is not to get to that point , look what a Holy people we are ,i know when im bored that leads to falls ,so what can i do when i feel ok inside,that will push off boredom, how about finishing a mesechta, or a sefer that speaks to me,even making a goal of reading 200 archived chizuk emails(what chizuk is in them! i think i did 1-400,one time,not in one sitting of course )and if all that comes out from this is that the fall is pushed off a little bit because of this post, i have no regrets in posting.Rav Mattisyahu Soloman Shlita said that NOT ONLY not sinning receives reward, but even pushing off the sin a few seconds is ALSO a great thing! the Chofetz Chaim ZTL said that even if a person gives a Krechtz/an oy! that makes a big difference.of course we should aim for greater things than a few seconds of postponement or a krechtz, but lets not belittle them either.(im not saying that you were belittling anything)
anyway i hope i addressed your post properly. ,hatzlacha!
sleepy