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Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 18 Aug 2015 00:44 #262022

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welcome back Big Fresh Moish! at least you aren't giving up, it's good that you picked ur head up and kept on fighting. I personally can't relate exactly to your SIL problem, i never have had a crush on a family member. However maybe you can give it up to god? this is something i learnt in sa, and i am not selling sa at all, however i think it can be helpful. If god can create the world he can remove a lustful thought. I have found that if I truly ask hashem to help me with the thoughts then he delivers.
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Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 18 Aug 2015 00:48 #262023

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Shlomo24 wrote:
welcome back Big Fresh Moish!

Didn't even realize I was gone.
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My threads:
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!

Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 18 Aug 2015 02:26 #262028

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awkward, thought this was a new thread from BM, i didn't look at the dates
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Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 18 Aug 2015 02:38 #262033

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כל ימיך יהיו בעיניך כחדשים
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My threads:
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!
Last Edit: 18 Aug 2015 02:38 by Bigmoish.

Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 18 Aug 2015 02:57 #262037

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Shlomo24 wrote:
awkward, thought this was a new thread from BM, i didn't look at the dates

I noticed that many people don't realize when I bump a thread.
They say: Hey R' Bard, good to hear you're doin' swell.
or...
Silent Battle, good stuff!
or....
Letakein, how'd you slip in here?
or.....
Rage, what da !@#$% was up with you yesterday?
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.
Last Edit: 18 Aug 2015 02:58 by cordnoy.

Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 18 Aug 2015 03:00 #262038

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I think of the long lost old timers, I would appreciate most to hear from blind beggar.
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My threads:
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!

Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 18 Aug 2015 03:01 #262041

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Bigmoish wrote:
I think of the long lost old timers, I would appreciate most to hear from blind beggar.

He sure had a way with words.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 18 Aug 2015 14:56 #262094

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Bigmoish wrote:
I think of the long lost old timers, I would appreciate most to hear from blind beggar.

i emailed him a link to your comment
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
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Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 19 Aug 2015 20:02 #262271

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Hi Bigmoish,

I haven't been on this Forum for ages. I am, by the grace of G-d, SA sober for 1,609 days (4 yrs. 4 mos.) When I went to SA 4 years ago I believed I was a sexaholic but I cannot honestly say that now. I can literally cry about the wreck I was back then when my mind was a 24 hr. soft porn movie theater and I needed to go to the mikva a few times a week.

Of course, there are always nisyonos and I still have bigger nisyonos than most men in these inyonim. I travel on buses every day with women on the bus and women in the street and at work there is a new girl who is not very attractive but reveals flesh. I'm going to try the 90 day wall thing again to keep GYE clean instead of only SA sober.

A SIL crush is a difficult situation. Mine are all thousands of miles from Meron. It's good that your wife told you about her sister's problems because people have problems and objects offer pure pleasure.

Keep smiling and keep going.
The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars.
If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
I can guard my eyes.
I want to guard my eyes.
I do guard my eyes.
Why do I say these four lines?

Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 19 Aug 2015 20:06 #262275

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Blind Beggar wrote:
Hi Bigmoish,

I haven't been on this Forum for ages. I am, by the grace of G-d, SA sober for 1,609 days (4 yrs. 4 mos.) When I went to SA 4 years ago I believed I was a sexaholic but I cannot honestly say that now. I can literally cry about the wreck I was back then when my mind was a 24 hr. soft porn movie theater and I needed to go to the mikva a few times a week.

Of course, there are always nisyonos and I still have bigger nisyonos than most men in these inyonim. I travel on buses every day with women on the bus and women in the street and at work there is a new girl who is not very attractive but reveals flesh. I'm going to try the 90 day wall thing again to keep GYE clean instead of only SA sober.

A SIL crush is a difficult situation. Mine are all thousands of miles from Meron. It's good that your wife told you about her sister's problems because people have problems and objects offer pure pleasure.

Keep smiling and keep going.


Great stuff!
Thanks for poppin' in.

b'hatzlachah to you

Stay to the right side of the bus!
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 19 Aug 2015 20:11 #262277

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Thanks for gracing my thread with your presence.
The old timers are a bit legendary by now.
Good to see you made it back here from the secret forum where everyone else went.
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My threads:
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/236327-Bigmoish-tries-to-be-good
www.guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/236329-Bigmoishs-path-to-tahara

"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
"Today, damn it! Today!" - cordnoy
"Desiring is not a sin at all, but just a sign that you are not dead yet" - Dov
"We are our own worst observer" - eslaasos's therapist
WDHW!!!

Re: Bigmoish tries to be good 23 Aug 2015 15:11 #262572

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Welcome Moish!
Great to have you with us. (Good you haven't disappeared to the secret forum)
I know that you've been here longer then me, but everyone can use a new welcome every once in a while. Welcome to you too Cords. (and TZ and SG and BB [why not :P:) ]) (Maybe you can have the Rebbe come back too, since you seem to have the power of t'cheyas ha'masimchaim)
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