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Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 15:08 #376351

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I'm so happy for you that you were able to cry! it healthy and its relieving! Your not snapping at all. Its actually very confident of you to cry in front of others!
Be a part of my 90 day journey! -Destination -90 days, A Human beings journey. Every post and suggestion response and chizzuk is appreciated.

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Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 20:07 #376370

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WOWOWOWOWOW!!!!!!!!!!! 
I just had an amazing moment...
I was talking to one of the amazing Yidden on GYE it was his first time ever talking to someone on the phone about his struggle and together we were being mechazek each other and I was trying to bring out the point that we are not bad people so we popped out the good old calculator and did the math (we ended up asking siri cuz i couldnt figure out how to do the actual math.... I forgot all math when the diploma touched my hand....) there are over 8,000,000,000 people in the world and out of all that there are 30,000 people on GYE!!!!!!!! that means that us heilege GYE chevra are approx. 0.00037% of the world and how the heck can we think we are bad??????? out of 8 Billion people just 0.00037% are here shteiging!!!!
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Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 22:05 #376377

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Honest question guys please respond!! Is it bad that instead of watching random kosher videos I'm now spending a lot of time reading the GYE forums?

I did not phrase that correctly. 

I meant to ask is it better now that I'm reading the forums or is it just another tech related entertainment?

i felt like I should leave both versions of the question in for some reason.....
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Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 05:57 #376391

joetyh wrote on 23 Jan 2022 22:05:
Honest question guys please respond!! Is it bad that instead of watching random kosher videos I'm now spending a lot of time reading the GYE forums?

I did not phrase that correctly. 

I meant to ask is it better now that I'm reading the forums or is it just another tech related entertainment?

i felt like I should leave both versions of the question in for some reason.....

Many of us have this issue. Some respond "well, it's better than the other stuff that you would be doing." 

I like to say as HHM always says, don't worry, it will wear off, it's not as exciting as Porn/YouTube."
Check out My Thread and The Truth

(עשה רצונו כרצונך (אבות,ב:ד

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Last Edit: 24 Jan 2022 07:29 by wilnevergiveup.

Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 09:17 #376396

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definitely true lol!!!!

any tips how do I get the grat box on the quote?
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Last Edit: 24 Jan 2022 09:19 by joetyh.

Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 09:20 #376397

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Guys!!!! My First week!!!!!! this is crazy!!!!! 
this GYE thing is insane!!!! the support is crazy!!!!!!
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Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 12:00 #376401

joetyh wrote on 24 Jan 2022 09:17:
definitely true lol!!!!

any tips how do I get the grat box on the quote?

You can click the the quote button at the bottom of the post that you want to quote.
Check out My Thread and The Truth

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Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 12:06 #376402

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wilnevergiveup wrote on 24 Jan 2022 12:00:

joetyh wrote on 24 Jan 2022 09:17:
definitely true lol!!!!

any tips how do I get the grat box on the quote?

You can click the the quote button at the bottom of the post that you want to quote.

did this work? cuz i my end it doesnt look like it did
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Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 12:09 #376403

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oh well now it did sorry for harrasing
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Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 14:23 #376411

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joetyh wrote on 23 Jan 2022 22:05:
Honest question guys please respond!! Is it bad that instead of watching random kosher videos I'm now spending a lot of time reading the GYE forums?

I did not phrase that correctly. 

I meant to ask is it better now that I'm reading the forums or is it just another tech related entertainment?

i felt like I should leave both versions of the question in for some reason.....

depends which post
I'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 16:02 #376415

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Trouble wrote on 24 Jan 2022 14:23:

joetyh wrote on 23 Jan 2022 22:05:
Honest question guys please respond!! Is it bad that instead of watching random kosher videos I'm now spending a lot of time reading the GYE forums?

I did not phrase that correctly. 

I meant to ask is it better now that I'm reading the forums or is it just another tech related entertainment?

i felt like I should leave both versions of the question in for some reason.....

depends which post

what do you mean?
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 17:45 #376416

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joetyh wrote on 24 Jan 2022 16:02:

Trouble wrote on 24 Jan 2022 14:23:

joetyh wrote on 23 Jan 2022 22:05:
Honest question guys please respond!! Is it bad that instead of watching random kosher videos I'm now spending a lot of time reading the GYE forums?

I did not phrase that correctly. 

I meant to ask is it better now that I'm reading the forums or is it just another tech related entertainment?

i felt like I should leave both versions of the question in for some reason.....

depends which post

what do you mean?

if you spend your time reading my posts, that's good; some of the others - i'm not so sure. gevurah & mbj - a definite yes; rage - nope.
I'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 22:16 #376425

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I don't know why I decided to do this, or what gave me the strength, but last night I sent my father the following text....  

"You don't even know how much I appreciate having understanding parents... I don't know why I feel like sending this text but I decided I will.For the past couple of years I've struggled really hard with shmiras einayim and shmiras habris... I've developed terrible habits and I was feeling so guilty and alone. Even when I originally found GuardYourEyes  I wasn't ready and it was not working. BH this year I have reached a point where I was able to confront myself and realize I've got an issue... I got really involved with GYE. I spoke to my Rosh Yeshiva a lot I spoke to my Mashgiach and I came to the conclusion that I'm normal... And I can beat this. I got this amazing mentor from GYE who has explained to me what the proper outlook on sex and intimacy is and how what I have been doing is so detrimental for the beautiful marriage I hope to have BezH at the right time... BezH when I wake up tomorrow morning it will be my first week clean in I don't know how long and it's the first time I believe I can beat this no matter how hard it will be...."

I'm still not sure why I decided to but it felt so good to share it and get so so much support from my loving father. After this I was just sitting in bed crying and crying (for the second time yesterday, good thing my roommate didn't walk in again) I have been waiting and davening for these tears for years!!!!!!!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 25 Jan 2022 00:20 #376426

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joetyh wrote on 24 Jan 2022 22:16:
I don't know why I decided to do this, or what gave me the strength, but last night I sent my father the following text....  

"You don't even know how much I appreciate having understanding parents... I don't know why I feel like sending this text but I decided I will.For the past couple of years I've struggled really hard with shmiras einayim and shmiras habris... I've developed terrible habits and I was feeling so guilty and alone. Even when I originally found GuardYourEyes  I wasn't ready and it was not working. BH this year I have reached a point where I was able to confront myself and realize I've got an issue... I got really involved with GYE. I spoke to my Rosh Yeshiva a lot I spoke to my Mashgiach and I came to the conclusion that I'm normal... And I can beat this. I got this amazing mentor from GYE who has explained to me what the proper outlook on sex and intimacy is and how what I have been doing is so detrimental for the beautiful marriage I hope to have BezH at the right time... BezH when I wake up tomorrow morning it will be my first week clean in I don't know how long and it's the first time I believe I can beat this no matter how hard it will be...."

I'm still not sure why I decided to but it felt so good to share it and get so so much support from my loving father. After this I was just sitting in bed crying and crying (for the second time yesterday, good thing my roommate didn't walk in again) I have been waiting and davening for these tears for years!!!!!!!!!

To quote my mentor, HHM: HERO!!!!!!!!!!!!
Appreciate every day your understanding and supporting parents. You’ll get through this!
נאָך אַ שריפה ווערט מען רייַך - After a fire one becomes wealthy.

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Re: This time will be better 25 Jan 2022 07:05 #376436

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Day Number 8!!!! we pluggin fwd!!!! just told my rosh yeshiva i need a new first seder chavrusa cuz thats what is important in life!!!! 
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